Wednesday, August 27, 2014

A Real Man

Does a “real man” dream of being a woman? Standing around with “his buddies” talk about cars does a “real man” wish that he could be over with the women? Does a “real man” sit to pee and avoid urinals like the plague?

What is a real man? What makes a man or a woman?

Chromosomes? Hormones? Is it the ability to father a baby or give birth? Are we just a social construct? Or is it something deep inside us?

If you ask any trans-person they will probably tell you that it is something deep inside you and if you ask a cis-person they would probably tell you it is chromosomes or hormones or what is between you legs.

Very few non-trans-people get it. Most people do not question their gender, they don’t sit for hours at a time trying to figure out why they feel male or female, or trying to deny the gender they feel deep inside. I like to say that it is like a row of telephone poles; if you stand so that they are all inline you only see the first telephone pole but if you stand aside you can see all the other telephone poles. If your gender and sex are inline you see them as the same. However, if your sex and gender are different you see that there are two poles, not just one.

As one doctor said if you want to find out if a child is a boy or a girl, ask.

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